Sunday, July 19, 2009


Comparison is a disease that is worse than cancer or a tumour. The result is quite debilitating – lowering everyone’s self-esteem all around. You can’t win either ways. If you are found great, you have to keep racing to maintain the greatness, creating a lot of stress for yourself. If you are found wanting, you are going to hate yourself. The moment you begin comparing, you are in a no-win situation. How many parents compare their children with others and find them wanting in some quality or other? Remember, not all 40 students in a class can stand first. I actually wonder at the system that awards a prize to a best student. Everyone has a unique quality and intelligence. No one is born dumb. The trouble is that the education system is such that we are pressing all the wrong buttons. Then why be surprised when we get the answers wrong. We have to remember one thing – each one of us is different. Otherwise, we would be clones. Then what fun would there be in life? The world is full of contrasts – Day and night; Rich and poor; Beauty and beast. The list is endless. Everything and everyone falls into one or the other category or something in-between. Is there a need to feel ashamed or make someone feel low about the truth? We are in search of an excellence that is relative. A person might be a billionaire but unhappy, while you might find a beggar singing gustily with a grin on his face even if he does not know where his next meal is coming from. The only way to get over this is to stop comparing yourself with others. Why not compete with yourself? You were something yesterday. Get better today and go on to improve on yourself tomorrow. You set the goals and parameters – something that goes hand in hand with self-discipline and then see how your life evolves, slowly in the beginning and then by leaps and bounds. And then you have a win-win situation all around.

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